Love Thy Neighbor

I want my children to grow with love. To grow with kindness. To be genuine. To be full of heart. I see it in their eyes. It glows through their skin and radiates through their smiles. It shines in their laughter, and their shenanigans and goings on.

I had an experience tonight that quite frankly scared the shit out of me. I’m not going to go into detail on it, but it was all too similar to a year I had in high school. That year, through loss, I learned how to truly value your friends. Tonight, through grace, there was no loss. But the memory of the fall of 1999 is still too close to the front of my mind. It still hurts. But tonight, I cry mixed tears. Te Read More...

Dad’s Eye View

I guess that’s how it is when you grow up and have children. The world is in a constant state of change, but so am I. The view through the window is never the same twice, and neither is the view from the eye’s of a dad.

When I was the same age as my little ones, it always seemed that all the world was a stage and that life was a movie starring myself. Outside of my agenda, nothing else really seemed to matter. I could never see the dangers that lie ahead in life. The let downs and the downsides that I would later experience. There was change happening all around, but I couldn’t see it, couldn’t understand it. I wasn Read More...

Celebrating the 21st Century Dad

So today, I raise a glass, and my fist, and celebrate the 2st century dad. I celebrate the community and writers here at DadRevolution. I celebrate the dads I have been blessed to connect with online and elsewhere who share the same strong passion. And I raise my glass to James. Thank you for the anthem that simply just celebrates what we come together online for in the first place. We are dads. We are 21st century dads. And we are proud of that!

Here at DadRevolution, we share our experiences, hopes, successes, failures, and feelings on all things being dad. We come from many different walks of life. We live in different places, we work different jobs, and we live different lives. But we all come here and write about the one thing we all have in common. we love our lives as dads. We share a passion for being involved in the lives of our children, and hope Read More...

No Harm, No Foul, No Apologies

In these ways, moms and dads are not that different. We all share a common ground which should be remembered by both parties. We share our fallibility, we share the parts of us that make us fail at times. We share human nature. And when it comes to being human? No harm, no foul, no apologies.

**Note: This is a fixed up repost from my personal blog. As certain events have unfolded in my life, and with words that have been floated my way recently, it is very fitting to my mood today, so I wanted to share it here too**   There is probably a lot in life that I should apologize for. Fighting with the wife, punishing a child then later finding out they weren’t the one at fault, being late to work b Read More...

Terms of Engagement: Drawing the War Plans

With the change in parental roles in our house, came a change in attitudes, routines, and habits. None of us were prepared for all of the changes, and all of the new stress that came along with it. This also included how to handle aggressive and undesirable behavior from the children. We knew that there would be some acting out, some of that “pushing the boundaries” jazz, and all that other junk, but we did not have any knowledge of how to decide if and how to intervene or administer punishment.

Buzz Lightyear lies wounded on the battlefield. Not too far from him, Optimus Prime lies fallen. Both, victims of a horrific act of violence. Two of the world’s strongest allies became innocent bystanders in a war that was never there’s. The time was 6:47 in the evening. Hell hour. The giants that stood above these iconic heroes, rained tears down on them, as if truly sorrowful for their actions, and fo Read More...

Metal Mayhem

What started with my dad providing these memories for his son by being there, going to the shows, and enduring what those shows entailed, now continues with that same son, now raising a son of his own, and using a passion for music to create some grand memories. And in the end, that’s what it is all about to begin with. Not that we all share the same musical taste, but the fact that we were there and a part of the memory to begin with.

If you follow me on Twitter then you may have noticed that recently I have been on a kick of listening to metal. Bands like Confide, We Came As Romans, Killswitch Engage, and Bullet for My Valentine, just to name drop a few. Since high school, I have had an ear for metal, hardcore, post-hardcore, and music of the like. Some great father/son memories were created between me and my dad going to hardcore shows to see Read More...

The See-Saw Effect: Balancing the Daddy and Hubby Roles

I have to be love, relationships, understanding, sacrifice, support, mutuality, trying, forgiveness, failure, and success and I have to be the example of those things as well. If I am setting the wrong example, I am probably being the wrong husband. If I am being the wrong husband, I am probably being the wrong example. So the see-saw tips back and forth, but with a little more ease. I’m never going to be the perfect of either, but I can keep the rocking to a minimum. Those relationships are too important to let slip, and too intertwined to let go.

There are many things I was never told about, when it comes to parenting, before I had to experience them for myself. Perhaps it was intended this way because, honestly, the subject I am trying to tackle today is not an easy one. It is probably one of those things I am better off experiencing before the advice rolls in because it is not really something that someone outside can help with. There are two definitive a Read More...

Cutting Through the Cute

Knowing that the tears will fall and my baby girl, that precious baby girl, will cry, probably scream, maybe even flail about like a marlin that has jumped on shore, just breaks my heart. No dad wants to see his little girl crying. Yet, when the time comes, there are those times that we have to stand our ground, and like Tom Petty, we won’t back down. It’s a tough, cruel world that causes a dad to have to go through that. Or… it’s a stubborn, tough as nails, independent, sassy little diva, who just uses her powers to the fullest.

My precious daughter has me wrapped so tight around her finger that it is absolutely ridiculous. I mean, cut off the circulation, makes your fingernail turn a funky purple/blue color before just dropping off like a melting icecicle. I’ve heard it said very often that most little girls become daddy’s girls. And that dads are just powerless against the awe that comes to them when becoming the dad of a dau Read More...

Luckiest Man Alive

With good, there is bad. With greatness, there is weakness. And where there is winning, there is failure. So where do I go from here? I head to the medicine cabinet, take some ibuprophen, take a deep breath, and I get my head out of my rear and get back in the game. This is what I signed up for. This is where I wanted to be. And now, this is where I am. I’ll learn more about taking the bad with a grain of salt and taking the good as memories to treasure. I will put my family ahead of me just as much now as I did as a full-time working parent. I will praise the blessings I am given, and learn to live as the luckiest man on Earth.

As I have said before, I am finding out quickly that being a stay at home parent is not as easy as it had seemed before I started spending more time at home. There is so much than can happen in the course of one day, and very rarely will a day go the way I hope it will. Sure, we plan out a nice evening walk before bath and bedtime. But we don’t plan the trip off of the curb, the busted knee, the sudden rain, Read More...

As Real as it Gets

It is my hope that this logic becomes infectious this year. That the definition of what a real man is will change in the minds of those who are most influential, most heard, most revered by popular culture. It’s just my thought that they could just fuel the revolution in ways that we cannot. But the fight does begin with us. And it is time to do something about it.

It’s not just the sweet, the cute, and the innocent things children do that will take your breath away. It’s also the bruised noggins, the busted lips, broken bones, ear piercing tantrums, randomly thrown toys, first time outs, first punishments, late night explosive diarrhea and projectile vomiting. It’s getting into bed at 1am only to be up at 4am with a screaming newborn who is hungry enough Read More...

Watching from a Distance: With Tearful Eyes

At a critical stage for development in them, I reach a critical stage of backing off. The new year roles around and so do many changes. I’m sure there will be many memories made, many new things learned. And plenty of opportunities to just sit back and watch.

Yes indeed, the year is about at it’s end. So much can happen in the course of 365 days. There are a lot of memories to be made, a lot of learning that can occur, and a lot of growing up to be done. During the last 12 months, we have seen a lot of change, a lot of growing, and have made a lot of memories. In looking back to the beginning of the year, and looking upon all of the events of the year, I turn my f Read More...

Keeping the Holidays Spirited

The world does not have enough compassion, enough love, enough hope. Remember the hopes and dreams you had as a kid? Somewhere, we have lost sight of the joy and the peace these hops and dreams bring. But it was never just us. This holiday season, teach your kids that it is never just us. There is a whole world of people with hopes and dreams.

The holidays are always such a magical time for children. There’s the lights, the sounds, the enthusiasm. Kids all over the world are celebrating many different holidays around this time of year. In our house, we are getting ready for Christmas this weekend. The presents are wrapped, the tree is lit up, and the kids absolutely cannot stand the fact they still have a few days left before they can open presents Read More...

We Are All Mr. Gru

We are all Mr. Gru in that we are all human. We are all fathers. We are all human fathers. Part of the human experience for us is to raise a child from birth until they are adults. Even then, it never really stops. It’s just all part of the experience. And what a great one it is.

I’m not afraid to admit that I love “Despicable Me“. Typically, Little Girl and myself watch it once a day when I am home during the week. Every morning she asks to watch “Mr Gru”, so I pop it in, let her push play at her demand, then we cruise over to the couch and just veg out. It’s wonderful. Words cannot describe this joy of having such a quality time with my girl. Most of t Read More...

The Revolution Never Ends

The revolution never ends. It continues within ourselves and within the lives of other dads. We form new ideas, we begin new practices, and we change our thoughts, all to become better dads, husbands, sons, brothers, co-workers, and people. The question now is this: What are you doing to revolutionize yourself? How are you positively impacting your life for the betterment of your children and your family? And how are you living the example that the revolution means to us here?

If you have been a loyal reader of DadRevolution in the past, then you know that the content flowing through here ended kind of abruptly. If you are new to visiting this site, then just look at the time span between this post and the previous. It has been quite some time (in internet time) since you have seen a new post here. So what brings me to logging in at 12:30 at night, and writing this post? The reason we al Read More...

Finding Nemo is Finding Inspiration

As time goes by, maybe taking a step back will become an easier step to take. I kind of doubt it, but you never know. What I do know is that it is a step that I will have to make time and time again. It may not be easy, and it may not be fun. But it will be the right step at the right moment. And it will be the step my children need me to make.

Ah yes, Finding Nemo. A great animated film from Pixar animations that once again puts a dad in the main character spot. In this tale of the seas, Nemo gets scooped up by a crazy Aussie dentist and his dad, Marlin, sets off on an epic adventure to find his son. Facing sharks, jellyfish, and a whole slew of awesome characters, Marlin sets off to do what most dads would do in that situation: risking their life for t Read More...

Dadhood in the Raw | Real Men are Emo

I fear I miss out on too much when my head is just not all there. There is so much love, gratitude, and sanctity in such a short amount of time that I am sure my heart will explode with joy someday soon.

It’s 5:45 am. Do you know where your children are? Mine are tucked away, snug and sound in their beds. How do I know? I snuck into their room to kiss them each goodbye before heading out the door to work. Today is Saturday. 6:15am to 4pm. Then back on from 5pm until around 10pm. We have a truck delivery this morning, a massive prep sheet, and it’s the busiest sales day of the week. We will have our wor Read More...

TeleNav for the Every Dad

How many times have you been late to work because of heavy traffic or road construction? Have you ever heard of a new place near you that sounds too good to be true and you wonder why you never knew about it? Maybe you want to get the kids out but want to get somewhere different than the usual spot? As a working dad, I understand the feelings of other working dads who want to save time on travel and be home just a Read More...

Taking the Ordinary to the Extraordinary

I think I am going to take the cue from the ones who take so many from me and start making every ordinary, extraordinary. There is always a way to bring more life into everything. Why shouldn’t the same be said for being a dad?

Isn’t it amazing how something as simple as a paper plate can become so much more with a little help of a child’s imagination? I marvel at the ways my children can take normal objects around the house and make them into something more grand than they were originally intended for. Everything can be something great with a little imagination. It is a skill that sometimes I think I need to hold onto better. Read More...

Sibling Rivalry

What do you do to promote a healthy relationship between siblings? Do you find some things work better than others? Is it even possible to to do anything about it?

Everyone enjoys a great sports rivalry. Gamecocks vs Tigers, Lexington vs Irmo, and Virginia vs Virginia Tech are just a few that come immediately to mind. Sports fans get decked out in their team’s colors and the air in the stadium is electrified as the game begins. It’s such a shame that we can’t get that excited over sibling rivalry. Little Man vs Little Girl, half the crowd in pink, the other Read More...

Happy Father’s Day from DadRevolution

To the dads out there who know being involved is more than a diaper a day.

                  From All of Us to All of You To the dads out there who know being involved is more than a diaper a day. To the dads who understand the difference between “Wahhhh” and “Wohhhhhh” in a child’s cry. To the dads who live the example of  what being a man means to their sons. To the dads who show their daughters how a real man Read More...