First, I’d like to say that it is an honor to have been asked to join a group of men who are also passionate about being great fathers and sharing their journey. I think that this “Dad Revolution” is a long time coming and feel blessed to live in an age where technology can connect dads from all over the world. When I started my family at the age of 20, I was often alone because I wanted to do “dad things” with other 20-30 year old dads but there were few who wanted to “be down.” Many were too busy trying to hold on to the last bastion of their perceived single guy freedoms, just simply weren’t around, or couldn’t be bothered. Heck, when my wife had her baby shower, I wanted to have a co-ed even it wasn’t popular at all at that time. I figure that if we’re celebrating the birth of OUR child then WE should ALL be celebrating. But, no joy. Since I know I’m not the only one who experienced that, it’s awesome that we are now connected and able to cheer each other on, kick each other in the arse when the need arises and just be each others champions in this fatherhood journey.
Let me dig a little deeper though and say that I think the Dad Revolution is so much more than that. I think it’s a “Man Revolution.” Striving to be the best “you” you can be is what makes a man a great dad, despite failures. If you’re a poor husband it will effect your fatherhood. I know because I’ve been that. If you’re a terrible son or brother, that has a chance to effect your fatherhood. We so easily compartmentalize our emotions (which isn’t a bad thing in the proper moments), but our lives can’t be compartmentalized so effectively. Who we are as men leaks into all the other aspects of our lives and so, being a great dad requires that the revolution first takes place within. And when that happens, I believe that the Dad Revolution can’t be stopped. A Dad Revolution which begins with the heart of a man is a dad revolution which can elevate other men who are sitting on the sidelines to get fired up and join in and begin their own journey to an inner revolution which will have a revolutionary effect in their own homes.
I guess that’s as good an introduction to me as any. I’m a passionate dadvocate, a cock-eyed optimist, a man devoted to his family and being better than his shortcomings and one who is happy to be a part of this revolution and inspire, be inspired and walk arm in arm with other men who heed the clarion call to strong, emotionally healthy households where we no longer leave all the nurturing and raising of the kids in the domain of moms but we take an active, present role in building up, encouraging, mentoring and loving our children. Daddy is more than just dollar signs and a disciplinarian and that is the revolution!
The revolution wasn’t about dads trying to take over the world, or take all the glory from the moms of the world. The revolution was about making ourselves better, becoming more involved, and being the best dads we know how to be.
Hello to readers far and wide. Come and stand right by our side. The air is buzzing with talk of revolution. And like Rock And Roll it isn’t noise pollution.
Hello to readers far and wide. Come and stand right by our side. The air is buzzing with talk of revolution. And like Rock And Roll it isn’t noise pollution. Okay, I know it’s a little corny, but had to make a quip for the entrance to this post. My name is John (aka The DaddyYo Dude) and I am honored to be a new contributor here at Dad Revolution. My journey into the dad world began with the birth of my son, Caleb, back in 2007. It was the most magical time in my life. Being a new dad, being a young dad, and being a scared dad. A lot of emotions ran deep and it is impossible for me to put them all into words. However, the family unit didn’t seem complete, until we had Marlee in 2009. With the birth of my second child came the birth of a new me, figuratively speaking. My views on being a dad and what it meant to be the best dad I could be started to shift and take on new meanings.
I started with The DaddyYo Blog back in April of this year. I started writing about my experiences and my trials and fears of beign a dad. Soon after something else magical started happening. The dadosphere became electric with 2010 being called “the year of the daddy blogger” and more and more dads were seeking to define what it meant to be a dad in these times. The role of dad in the household was being redefined, and the talk of revolution was in the air.
For me, the revolution brought on a hightened sense that I was not alone in the dad world. I wasn’t the only one wanting to be more active in my children’s lives. The revolution wasn’t about dads trying to take over the world, or take all the glory from the moms of the world. The revolution was about making ourselves better, becoming more involved, and being the best dads we know how to be. Dads all over the world are redefining the role of the dad in the family and letting it be known that we are not afraid to change diapers, not afraid to feed a newborn a bottle, and not afraid to sling a diaper bag over one shoulder and sleeping child over the other. I am honored to be a part of such a great group of dads, who like me, seek to be active in the lives of their children, WANT to be involved parents, and of course, love their children with a passion only a father could have. Welcome to the Revolution, and thanks for tuning in!
There is a growing group of men that are not only doing their fair share but are stepping into roles that have too long been defined as only for women. To me Dadrevolution embodies that change in what it means to be a father today.
I remember the first job I ever had mowing the neighbors lawn and cleaning out stables where they kept two horses. I was 10 and the work was hard but the money was great, I was living large getting all the candy and soda I wanted. From about that age on I have worked in one field or another from working the counter at the local Baseball Card shop to working off shore pressure testing welds on oil derricks in the Pacific ocean. Most recently I have worked in the Software industry training folks, testing new software, and providing technical support to the savvy as well as the technophobes. While I have had some success in all these jobs I never saw any of them as a carrer until my wife and I had our first son and I got the opportunity to be the one at home with him. When he was 6 months old my wife went back to work and I quit my software job to come home and raise the boy. I had found my carrer, the job I could see myself doing and doing well for years to come. During that time home with my son I started writing about my experiences as a stay at home dad in a blog, mostly for family and friends.
A year later when a series of unfortunate events led us to move back to Portland, OR from the midwest and for me to go back
to work while my wife had our second son. We cruised along in these roles but they were unnatural and forced and in the summer of 2009 after losing my job we decided to go back to what works for our family. Me at home with the boys and my wife in the work force connecting with adults and being challenged with providing for us boys. when I came home again I got back to writing about those experiences in a blog called Stay At home Dad PDX and you can read more about our family there. So that is where we are now, me raising our 3 year old Primo, our 2 year old Segundo, and looking after our housemates 1 year old whom we lovingly call The Charge. We are an unconventional band of dudes in a local sea of stay at home moms and nannies at coffee shop music times and play dates in the park. I am excited to be part of this talented group of thoughtful dads that aren’t leaving the parenting to the mommies. There is a growing group of men that are not only doing their fair share but are stepping into roles that have too long been defined as only for women. To me Dadrevolution embodies that change in what it means to be a father today. These aren’t the detached dads from yesterday but engaged and active fathers who are looking to change more then diapers, they are looking to change the lives of their kids.