I love having a little boy, sometimes I forget the fact he’s still a baby in a lot of ways… The term is toddler and that means he’s totally into Elmo, Mickey Mouse, and Yo Gabba Gabba but that doesnt really work well with the cartoons I wouldnt mind watching…
Yes, I’m a grown man and I like to watch cartoons – what you’re going to make a big deal about it?!
My wifey hates the fact I still like watching a good cartoon here and there – Ben 10 and Batman are the ones currently getting recorded on the DVR. I wish my kid would like batman first its a great excuse to the wifey that the kiddo is really the one watching it but more so then I can enjoy the show too. Its all about spending time with the kid right?
To that point I’m soooo ready for my little toddler to become a little boy – ready to do the trip to six flags for him to be into all the comic book stuff that I’ve worked hard to collect as a teenager and ready to pass down a great (and underrated) art form.
I want to hear all the ideas and concepts of the super hero he creates and imagines being.
In the time being I’ll enjoy taking him to the playgrounds hearing him talk about Muno, Plex, and Brobee in the toddler language that only a few people understand. Give him baths and just enjoy him being a baby because I do see that he’s growing up too fast!
Sure its the title of a movie directed by Robert Zemeckis starring Michael Douglas, Kathleen Turner, and Danny DeVito. It is also a similar feeling to how romance goes once you have kids. I’m real in the fact that once we had a child it was a nose dive – we didnt sleep (heck, we still dont sleep) and sometimes we have different viewpoints on how we’re raising our son. None the less the the action/adventure that made the heat, is slowly turning into drool.
Of course it doesnt help that we’re now sharing our bed with our child. I dont really talk to much about this topic mainly because I still havent found the balance or a working solution. Sure I highly suggest Date Night because you need to dress up and wipe off the drool from your shoulder try to act like adults and get out for a moment. I also highly recommend doing a short vacation without the kids – even if its a stay-cation and you take a local hotel room its great to connect, if you could swing the few days away in paradise it’ll really help you drift away (just make sure whoever is watching the kids know that you’re not to be disturbed unless there is an ER visit!).
I hear couple talk about just wanting to spend time alone – which I do understand too but many people dont… my reasoning is sound in the fact that you need to take care of yourself first then you can take care of others… if you need a moment you need a moment before you can share moments together and really appreciate them.
Romancing the stone is just a funny topic because after such long periods of time you both forget what true passion and romance is to each other… so its almost like we’re both stone. Sure as a guy we’re almost turned on by any shiny object but to reconnect with your partner/wife is never as simple. You’re almost required to go to great lengths to make them forget about the day to day with kids, to make them feel special (where usually its about making your children feel special), and most importantly feel connected.
I know how to do awesome dates (it also helps to be in NYC where romance is just a little bit more expensive then a regular meal out) its also easy to toss some romance in to a simple evening at home with the right wine, cheese, and some flowers but to keep that romance there everyday is much harder and goes way beyond telling my wife how beautiful she looks.
Recently the topic of how did our parents and grandparents make this all work – I still wonder that even on romance front (forgetting how did they make it in the car for hours on end without a PSP or a pocket DVD player or an iPod). Maybe that’s the culture shift and why so many marriages are ending these days – because we’re forgetting to take care of each other and putting so much focus on our children. Who knows… its a long standing discussion.
My only advice is this – tell your wife/partner how much you care about them, tell them how much they mean to you and inspire passion into you and your life.
Hi I’m Adam Cohen aka DaDa Rocks and I’ll be your cruise director. I’ve always wanted to write it and think that this will be a good time to introduce the humor that will be inline with the posts I publish on DadRevolution. The revolution is not just a movement but its also a state of mind. This new mindset is so clearly seen in the eyes of tired new dads, its the idea that I’m over my old life and this new life will involve this amazing new child.
I’ve always been a fan of kids… I’ve been camp counselors, tutors, babysitters, so when it was time to start planning with my wife the life that our child will lead I was dancing on the ceiling. Its been a dream of mine to build a better fatherhood community, I feel there is giant lack of community activities availbility for dads… we’ve all grown up hearing about mommy and me classes, its only very recently that I heard the phrase daddy and me. I think it talks to the changing roles/dynamics of the cultures in which we live. There used to be no other role for a father but to go to work and come home and be the provider, now we have come to a point where there are stay at home dads, work at home dads, and some parts of our culture require two family incomes in order to survive.
I’m a big believer in community as I talked about there is support, there is unity, there is a common thread we all share… This shared experiences makes us a community. The question is how to form the community while in some neighborhoods that will be meeting up in other communities it’ll be done in an online experience. I thinks been the best part of the internet for me is finding similar/like minded people across the country (if not the world).
In the end I hope our revolution will transcend the virtual space and be we will one day be able to serve punch and pie at a meetup.