Flowers, Notes and Gifts… Is This Even Still Possible after Kids

We all get busy in our lives once we get married and when we add kids to the mix, our lives and our creativity sometimes takes a back burner. As parents we put all (or at least most) of our energy into our kids’ lives and sometimes our partner in the family dynamic gets left behind.

Have any of you felt this way?

I know that for me this definitely has occurred on and off within my wife and my 12 years of marriage. I know that I was much more romantic early in our relationship and definitely prior to getting marriage.

So why does this happen?

I think from conversations that I have had with other dads, this occurs because we become comfortable and busy. Comfortable with the way that our lives are going and busy with the hustle and bustle or family lives (can we say sports, school and swing sets?).

So how do we get out this rut?

All of us want romance in our lives, yet what our definitions of romance differ between each individual. I can say that I definitely like to feel wanted and appreciated and I know that my partner does as well. To provide this for her I try little things such as:

  • Surprising her with small notes around the house
  • Doing chores I normally would not do
  • Giving her time to do things that she normally would not get to do
  • Giving small gifts periodically (as we can afford them)
  • Taking the kids away to give her some quiet time (as she is a stay-at-home mom)

All of these small things keep our relationship strong, and I hope, also providing a strong example for our daughters of what they should aspire to in their own relationships within the future.

How do you keep your romance alive?

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I am a dad who works in Higher Education Administration by day and by night a dad to two girls (divas). I was born in Michigan and after some moving around the Midwest due to working for several colleges and universities, I am back living and working in Michigan and loving it! I started Dad of Divas as a way to document my experiences as a father as well as talk about important parenting tips that I have run into in my time being a Dad. As most blogs have, my blog has changed some over the last 2.5 years, but I have to say that I am still enjoying what I am doing and sharing with other parents that are out there. You will notice in my posts that I definitely do not have all of the answers (that’s for sure) but I am always willing to try something new to make my job as a parent easier (if that’s possible). I am so pleased to be a part of the group of revolutionary fathers who are, as I, working each day to be better than they already are, and are doing whatever they can to help their children to be the best that they can be!

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