A few weeks ago I had the chance to go to the big city moms (www.bigcitymoms.com) biggest baby shower event. It’s a cross between a pregnancy fair and a New York City party. Hundreds of expecting moms are there finding out information, talking to other moms to be, and enjoying the amazing raffles, prizes, giveaways, and keynote speakers.
Over the years, I’ve been to a few of these baby showers, usually being just one of a handful of guys. That’s the point of this post. As husbands/fathers/father-to-be we need to be more supportive. We need to be more hands on… Now I’m sure the person reading this first is the mom/wife – just know I’m on to you too… you complain that your husband isn’t involved as much as others – well have you let him know what you want? Have you shown him how to do it?
For most guys our father’s generation wasn’t hands on, so our touch point of fatherhood might really be TV. TV for the last 20 years hasn’t been all Bill Cosby like fathers, its mainly been the Al Bundy, Homer Simpson dads. They show a picture of helpless dads, who require strong women to make them do anything. I’m saying… we’re not mind readers and communication is key.
Being involved in our child’s lives is critical, as we’re making the next generation of leaders, of heroes and most importantly fathers & mothers…. Go to the mommy/daddy & me groups, go to the baby shower, learn about the toys and tools that you, your wife, and baby will be playing/learning with… Most importantly stop sitting on the sideline get in the game!